My husband used to call me the Queen of Regret, because I second-guessed most every decision of any significance. In my mind, scrutinizing and analyzing past decisions would scientifically help me to make better decisions in the future and bring me to that peaceful place of No Regrets.
The place of No Regrets is elusive.
I say he “used to” call me that, because a few years ago I began to make a concerted effort to change that thing about me, and I was doing pretty good about living peacefully with past decisions until my daughter died suddenly. Now I find myself in this regret battle again. The whys and the what-ifs threaten to overtake me if I’m not vigilant to recognize their tormenting game. It’s not a happy place.
I don’t usually make new year’s resolutions, but as 2014 arrives, one thing I resolve to do is to leave behind the regrets. The past cannot be changed. I must learn what is to be learned and move forward.
I absolutely know I cannot do this without the help of Jesus who IS my peace. (Ephesians 2:14)
I am reminded of a verse I haven’t thought about in a long time. In my Amplified Bible, I have it underlined and highlighted, and I can quote it by memory:
“And let the peace (soul harmony which comes) from the Christ rule (act as umpire continually) in your hearts–deciding and settling with finality all questions that arise in your minds–[in that peaceful state] to which [as members of Christ’s] one body you were also called [to live]. And be thankful–appreciative, giving praise to God always.” (Colossians 3:15)
That’s a road map to the peaceful place of No Regrets. I’m setting my GPS for it.
Maybe I should steal your New Year’s Resolution because I keep reliving the night Mike died over and over and wondering what if!
Suzanne Leitz said:
Join me, Nancy!
So very good!
I try to think about this now as Lambert lingers–I do not want any regrets. But, Suzzane, I have to know I am not perfect and what I have or haven’t done I believe Christ has finished already. Christ bore all of our shortcomings on the cross. May you be blessed in this wonderful New Year of our Savior.
Suzanne Leitz said:
So true, Mrs. Gwen! Thanks!